Tuesday, October 28, 2014


“I am still trying to wrap my mind around the idea of any two intimates in the world agreeing as to ‘why.’”

Something very weird is going on at America's colleges and universities.  No, I'm not referring to their generally leftist tilt and lack of ideological diversity, I'm not talking about their vast expense, or their loading up on administration at the cost of students.  I'm not even talking about how studies have shown that students aren't even getting much of an education at these institutions.
I'm talking about sex.  Now, college campuses have been having "sex weeks" for a while now, and more seem to be adding this to their regular yearly activities.  The idea that college students, bombarded with information and porn on the internet, need a week to learn more about sex is ridiculous of course; the point of these is to attract students and for students hoping to get laid to find someone.
But at the same time as new courses on sexuality and sex weeks and what have you is a sudden trend toward stopping molestation, rape, and abuse on college campuses.  Its everywhere all the sudden, with Mother Jones claiming that rapes will be increased by Global Warming no less, and even the president has made this a high priority, pivoting away from jobs again.  But look at these two graphs:

Those charts show first, the rate of rapes over the last 30 years, which has been on a 20 year decline, and the rate of federal investigations into college handling of sexual violence reports.  See the opposite tangents there?  And the federal chart is just in the last seven months.
The shocking thing, despite the FBI data shown above, is that repeatedly its been claimed that rape rates and sexual assaults are up, that they are skyrocketing, higher than ever, its a horrific crisis!  A student writing at Brown University, home of one of these reports writes:
Newlon and numerous other activists make the bold claim that one in every four college women is a victim of rape or attempted rape. This number is astonishing and no doubt eyebrow-raising. To put it in perspective, in the nation’s most violent city (Detroit), the total violent crime rate was 2.1 percent in 2012. That figure includes murder, rape, assault, and robbery. If the one in four figure shouted at feminist rallies is correct, the nation is willingly sending its daughters to places with a violent crime rate several times that of the most dangerous city in the country.

The number seems even more dubious when compared to statistics put forth annually by the Bureau of Justice Statistics. The Bureau interviews a random sampling of nearly 150,000 Americans about their criminal victimization, and in 2009 and 2010 they determined that the occurrence of rape of women was 0.23 percent and 0.21 percent, respectively.
How did these numbers get decided?  Well a few shoddy studies on campus, some people massaging numbers, and a generous helping of fakery.  For example, one of the questions asked if a girl would have had sex with that guy had she not been drinking or using drugs.  A bunch of the girls honestly answered "no if I was thinking straight I'd have never done it" and the person doing the study determined that this was... you guess it, rape.  It doesn't matter that it was completely consensual, it doesn't matter if these girls (who did, at a 35% clip) had sex later with the same guy.  They were raped, according to this study.

Its spreading, too.  California presently is deciding on a law they adorably call "yes means yes" or "affirmative consent."  What this bill declares is that unless a girl gives specific and clear written or spoken consent to sexual activity, then any sex that follows is assault or rape.  Period, anywhere on a college campus.  Not only that, but the legal standard used for whether a sexual activity was rape or not is defined the same way as a civil case, the "preponderance of evidence."  Not "beyond a reasonable doubt" but "well most of the evidence seems to point this way."
In other words, if after sex a girl says "You know, I never actually said yes.  Just because I stripped naked and put my ankles behind my head moaning your name, I didn't specifically give you affirmed consent," Bobby, run for the hills.  Because now if she gets mad at you for not texting her fast enough for ignoring her phone calls or dating Suzie, that fat bitch who stole her comb, she can haul you into court.  And as long as she has 1% more evidence than you that she didn't say yes... you're guilty, son.
If you don't think this would have a chilling effect not just on dating, but on guys going to college at all in California, you're probably the kind that voted for Jerry Brown last election anyway.
Andrew Cuomo thinks this would be a terrific thing for New York State to adopt, too.
Meanwhile In Ohio, Ohio State University has implemented some new guidelines: both students must agree why they had sex or the guy (never the girl, never, never, never) faces charges and expulsion if not criminal proceedings.  According to the campus "Wellness Center" that didn't go far enough.  They thought the standards should be:
all sex or “kissing” without “verbal,” “enthusiastic” consent as “sexual assault.”
College after university after learning institution has been moving down this path for years: the standard is, for boys, guilty until proven innocent.  And almost all cases are handled not by police or the justice system, but by colleges themselves.
These cases throw thousands of years of judicial development and process out, ignoring basic human rights and procedure and turning the hearings into kangaroo courts, determining not if the boy is guilty, but how guilty he is.  After all, no girl would lie about such a thing right?
So much of this is going on that hundreds of due process complaints and lawsuits have been leveled against colleges and universities across America for utterly trampling on the rights of students - always male students - in their zeal to protect girls.
Why protect girls?  Daddy is paying 40 grand a year or more to send her to college, and girls are the biggest number of students.  Can't let them go somewhere else, and take that sweet, sweet cash with them.  And besides War on Women, right?  The more we hype this, the easier it is to push that political agenda.
Step after step has been taken to try to make sex feel less significant and have less consequence in the lives of everyone.  From the pill to abortion on demand and onward, over and over the push has been to make it so women feel as consequence-free and easy with sex as men, with this being the presumed ideal of equality.
That men never were all that free and easy and felt free of consequence as the stereotype is irrelevant to this cause.  And yet for all those efforts, for all the changes to society, the attacks on "shaming" and the declarations that women are only liberated and modern if they have carpet burns on their knees and back, they still stubbornly kept feeling guilty and miserable.
I've written about this in the past, as have many others.  Study after testimony after book after anecdote show that women feel bad about being a slut.  Shocking, I know.  So do guys, for that matter.  The lifestyle they lived eats at their memory and conscience and they feel wrong about sleeping with 37 different guys in a school year.
That feeling of shame is so well known that it is called various names by people.  The "Walk of Shame" when you go home after sleeping with some guy wearing party clothes in the morning to the Taxi, for example.  Its well known that humping some random person because you felt lonely and drunk is nothing to be proud of.
In fact, the Sex and the City series was one long story of women longing for a real, fulfilling relationship with a man they could trust and keep and make a future with, but finding only frustration and sadness in the arms of a long series of improbably hot guys.
There is more than a little push with society trying to make bad feelings of guilt and regret go away with the presumption that its external things which cause it.  Guilt cannot, they believe, come from within, except it is enforced from without.  Its part of the old and idiotic, disproven Rosseauian ideal of the noble savage: if we only lived in a world that didn't condemn things I like to do, I'd have never felt guilty about them.
If you presume there is nothing except what you can feel, measure, and test scientifically, if you reject the existence of any absolute, external standard of right and wrong, then there cannot be any innate sense of good and evil within us to nag at us when we do wrong.
So girls keep feeling wrong and bad when they have some casual encounter with a dunce college boy?  Then its the fault of that boy, and our system!  We must fix it!
In the middle of all this, of course is a white elephant the size of the Pentagon with neon lights and blaring sirens that everyone is shouting to be heard above.  If you don't want a baby, if you don't want an STD, if you don't want regrets or guilt or shame, if you don't want to worry about the expense of birth control or the hassle of consent... STOP F***ING!!!!!
I'm sorry to put it so crudely, but good God, this is so stupidly obvious.  No, you don't have to have sex, no it is not a human right, no you aren't compelled by your hormones, and no you won't die if you don't get laid.  Grow the hell up.
That's right, grow up.  There's this idiotic idea in modern culture that sex is "adult" and "grown up" when its pretty juvenile stuff as its being portrayed and carried out.  It not adult to engage in promiscuous, meaningless sex.  Its not adult to party and get laid.  Its not adult to pursue sexual pleasures without consequence or relationship.  That's the same kind of childish attitude as the 8 year old that wants to eat their entire Halloween bucket of candy in one sitting.
Adults understand consequences, adults recognize there's more to life than my pleasures and running away from the hollow emptiness and meaningless feeling in your life.  Adults understand responsibility and that tomorrow actually matters.  Grow.  Up.
I want to end with two quotes.  First is from a mother, about college students.  She mistakes this crackdown on boys - not girls - as moving more toward 'neo-Victorian' attitudes, but her concerns are significant:
As the mother of a girl heading off to college one of these days, I’m delighted to learn that the sex saturated culture is finally drying up. However, as the mother of a boy who will also be heading off to college one of these days, I’m distressed that the change is coming about, not by demonizing the casual and perverse sex culture, but simply by demonizing boys and men.
And the other is from Camile Paglia, who views girls signing on to this kind of thing and acting like their corset is too tight, getting the vapors with unveiled contempt.
Wildly overblown claims about an epidemic of sexual assaults on American campuses are obscuring the true danger to young women, too often distracted by cellphones or iPods in public places: the ancient sex crime of abduction and murder. Despite hysterical propaganda about our “rape culture,” the majority of campus incidents being carelessly described as sexual assault are not felonious rape (involving force or drugs) but oafish hookup melodramas, arising from mixed signals and imprudence on both sides.

Colleges should stick to academics and stop their infantilizing supervision of students’ dating lives, an authoritarian intrusion that borders on violation of civil liberties. Real crimes should be reported to the police, not to haphazard and ill-trained campus grievance committees.

Too many young middleclass women, raised far from the urban streets, seem to expect adult life to be an extension of their comfortable, overprotected homes. But the world remains a wilderness. The price of women’s modern freedoms is personal responsibility for vigilance and self-defense.
In short, Ms Paglia notes that these are the complaints of people with too much comfort, freedom, riches, and time on their hands.  The complaints of people who know nothing about true misery, fear, horror, death, and pain.  People who have become civilized to the point of being effete and mincing, fainting at the sight of a real man and hyperventilating at the sight of a real woman.

One last quote from Ace of Spades HQ:
Also Half of MIT Students Think It's Possible to "Accidently" Rape Someone. And given how campuses are now defining 'rape' they're probably right.

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