Thursday, July 26, 2012


"The fact is the universe feels more orderly when we have expectations of how men will act, how our white knight will come parading in."

White Knight
If you want deep, substantive thinking, a website called The Frisky is probably one of the last places you'd want to go. Its a girly site about girly issues, dating, relationships, sex, and so on with a pink motif. However, you expect more from Instapundit, which is usually thought provoking if brief.

Well this time Glenn really provoked some thought. It started with a Frisky article called "The Aurora Shooting & The Myth Of Men’s Obligation To Be Heroes" by Jessica Wakeman. Jessica figures its dumb to say men are heroic, cause grrls can be too!
I can respect and be touched by these men’s sacrifices. But I’m also wary of some byproducts of the heroism myth, the idea that a few good men will have courage under fire and put “women and children first.” The Post crowed over these men’s “old-fashioned chivalry,” which are funny words to use, when you get right down to it. Why does masculinity have to have anything to do with heroic behavior?
But then we have Glenn Reynolds' response to her question: "It doesn't." He then wonders why there's no stories of girls leaping in front of a bullet to protect men if this heroism thing goes both ways, but his answer betrays a problem with masculinity today. But Instapundit said that masculinity has nothing to do with heroic behavior.

True masculinity is heroic. Heroic behavior like saving the life of a loved one, even at the cost of your own, is masculine. Jessica Wakeman tries to defend the fellow who ditched his fiancee and the kids to run away, saying "that's real life!" And the problem is, I fear that really is how far too many manscaped, apricot facial scrubbed, self-centered men would behave today. Talk about how if a guy had a concealed gun in the audience then the shooting could have been significantly reduced and people start shouting John Wayne as if that's an insult.

It is part of a man's nature to defend and protect. That's part of the essence of masculinity. It is part of being a man to give of yourself to save those you love. Its why men worked so hard in the past, to better their family, to give them what they needed and to demonstrate love and devotion by giving a little more. Again I have to turn to the Magnificent Seven to explain real courage as told by Charles Bronson's character O'Reilly:
Don't you ever say that again about your fathers, because they are not cowards. You think I am brave because I carry a gun; well, your fathers are much braver because they carry responsibility, for you, your brothers, your sisters, and your mothers. And this responsibility is like a big rock that weighs a ton. It bends and it twists them until finally it buries them under the ground. And there's nobody says they have to do this. They do it because they love you, and because they want to. I have never had this kind of courage. Running a farm, working like a mule every day with no guarantee anything will ever come of it. This is bravery. That's why I never even started anything like that... that's why I never will.
Men do this out of love and out of being a man. They sacrifice everything in the end for those they care for. Whether its leaping in front of a bullet or working yourself into a grave so your family can eat, its the same thing.

Its not that women cannot be heroic, Ms Wakeman lists some heroic female figures in her article. Its that their heroism takes a different form. Women sacrifice too, it is innately heroic to be truly feminine, particularly in this culture. But when it comes to this kind of heroism, its a masculine trait of physical prowess, using your strength and position to protect, build, and help those in need.

Ms Wakeman mocks the traditional concepts and old fashioned ideas being praised in those three heroes who died to save their loved ones. Because that's the new, fashionable thing to do. That's what our modern culture does, it showers contempt on virtues, patterns, and beliefs of the past, to show sophistication, intellectual "evolution," and how clever we all are now. Why, those fools, they should have lived, how are those girls better off without a husband, a boyfriend, a man they loved?

You can tell how out of place the behavior of these men were by how many columns and articles have been written about this strange action and trying to make sense of it. Its like aliens came to earth and are wondering why it is we kiss. They are amazed and shocked by this ancient behavior, why, how could someone do this?

When something like the Aurora shooting comes along, or 9/11, or a hurricane, flood, earthquake, what have you... all that fragile nonsense modern culture has built up around us to make being cowardly, selfish, and greedy seem proper and reasonable fall to pieces. And if your whole worldview is based on hedonism and postmodernism, that can be uncomfortable, even jarring. So you get pieces like what Ms Wakeman writes, to try to salvage some of her worldview and fight off the creeping sensation that maybe you're wrong not just in specifics but at the very foundation of your understanding of life and the universe.

In a culture where your life and comfort matters more than everything else, self sacrifice seems the very depth of stupidity and insanity. And in a crazy world, acting sane makes you look the most demented. Thankfully, most of the comments were very negative and disliked the whole tone of this woman's post. And I hope that, if she's ever protected by a man, she is properly grateful and not all grrl power in his face about how old fashioned he is and how women are heroes too.

Those three men who died, they rejected the society around them, the culture that says focus on yourself, and the idea that a smart man runs. They gave up everything they had to keep the one they loved safe, and greater love hath no man. Those men are heroes, and no disillusioned feminist can take that away.


Marie said...

It seems to me that men display heroism most frequently in the defense of women.

And that women display heroism most frequently in defense of children.

God bless all the heroes.

Anonymous said...

Keep it up. Awesome blog. Been reading since you were linked by ace (i think.) Your 'common knowledge' section is awesome. I've been checking them all out.

Just meant to say hi and keep it up!

Christopher R Taylor said...

Thanks and I hope you keep visiting. Marie, I think your breakdown is pretty accurate. I've seen some astounding stories of women's heroism in protection of children (men too, but women seem to go berserk when children are at stake).

Anna said...

I think Marie summed it up well.

ertdfg said...

It's actually quite simple, from a statistical point of view.

Remember the Harvard Prof who got in trouble for admitting that men tended to hold more area in the top end of mathematical ability on the bell curve?

Yep, he got in so much trouble for accepting the numbers and data; they're sexist and proof of sexism.

Of course his data also had men dominating the bottom edge of the curve, but no women complained about that... they want partial equality.

This is actually a clearer picture... you'll see feminists doing one (or both) of two things.

1) Dismissing male heroism as not male centric; and ignoring data to the contrary. IF I hear "jumped in front of a bullet to save *** spouse" I've got a good idea of the gender of the subject of that sentence.

2) They'll attack men for dominating the other end of the bell curve... Most mass murderers, serial killers, rapist, and muggers are men; predominantly so.

Again, the feminist desire is for "equality"... but only on the good side of the curve.