Thursday, August 18, 2011


"I know there are many men and women just like me who want to be accepted and loved for who they are."

As an experiment I've signed on to a dating service called 2Date4Love. Its just started, opening up applications as of the 1st of this month, and claims to be free if you sign up before the 20th of August. I have no real intention of finding some love of my life, nor would I trust a dating site, but this is an intriguing opportunity to look over a dating site from its inception and watch what kind of participation they get, how the business model changes, and what sort of response my profile gets, if any.

2date4love is one of those niche dating sites, in this case pretty unusual. Here's their pitch:
2date4love is a dating site that enables people who cannot engage in sexual intercourse to meet and experience love, companionship and intimacy at its deepest level.

At 2date4love, we encourage people with this shared commonality to be open to the possibility of finding love and happiness. We are committed to finding your perfect match.
Celibate love. Will this attract people who are too ugly and wierd to find a lover, or people who are particularly religious and careful? AIDS sufferers who don't want to pass on a disease, or just people who fear disease and look for virgins? I'm not sure, which is why I was particularly curious. For the record, yeah I'm celibate. I don't even date.

The site was created by Laura Brashier after a bout with cancer left her unable to engage in sex, so she thought maybe she'd find others out there with a similar interest. My interest is a bit more clinical: I'm just curious what will come of the place. If I married a woman there would be a significant amount of sex involved, ideally, but like I've said before barring an act of God I'm not marriage material.

Unlike a lot of people on these, I suspect, I'm brutally honest: I put myself down as having a limited diet and not getting a lot of exercise. They don't ask a lot of questions like weight, earnings, and appearance, or even sexual preference, but I put a picture up. I need a newer one, the one I put up is from 2000 so its technically accurate, but a bit dated: I'm grayer now; 11 years of some very hard mileage.

My guess is most people who sign up for this will be not exactly clear on the precise nature of the site, instead thinking this means "people who aren't having sex yet" but time will tell.

As time goes on I'll update if anything interesting comes up, and keep you advised. Any emails or notes I get I'll report the basic content, presuming anyone actually contacts me. This could be an interesting sociological experiment, or just a waste of time, we'll see.

My only concern is that by some amazing chance some woman might genuinely be interested in a poor, ill guy with no prospects and I don't want to hurt or mislead anyone.


eric said...

At first when I saw the headline I thought it was going to be a dating site where they don't tell you the sex of your date... which dovetails perfectly with my idea for a menuless restaraunt.

Marie said...

I think this is a neat idea. Keep us posted.

JoelAT said...

I think this is a horrible idea.

sbobet said...

thanks ysboou for arsbochive

Debbie said...

Unless you've gone thru cancer treatments that have "destroyed" you physically, you couldn't possibly know the pressure that exists in the dating arena to have to have a sexual relationship. Not all people understand that there is a differnce between being intimate with their partner vs being sexual with them. When I stumbled on this dating site it gave me hope just knowing there are other people out there going thru the same thing that I am.

Anonymous said...

the ONLY reason a guy would object to a site like that is because it would give WOMEN more options than the mens sex sex sex expecting sites women have to choose from now online. ,.its SAD that men feel they have NOTHING else to offer women but another bland Strangers Penis. A new site like this would FORCE men into having to have MORE to offer than PENIS

sbobet said...

out there with a similar interest. My interest is a bit more clinical: I'm just curious what will come of the place. If I married a woman sbo
there would be a significant amount of sex